The essential questions Carrie Bradshaw asks in every ‘Sex and the City’ episode
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The essential questions Carrie Bradshaw asks in every ‘Sex and the City’ episode

And just like that, all six seasons of Sex and the City arrived on Netflix. Darren Star created the 94-episodes-long series by adapting Candace Bushnell’s newspaper column and 1996 book anthology.

In the whirlwind of Manhattan’s bustling streets and romantic entanglements, Carrie Bradshaw, the iconic protagonist of Sex and the City, posed an array of inquiries while navigating the world of modern relationships. 

From the debut season to its very finale, Carrie’s column served as a sounding board for her inner musings. Some thoughts made sense and resonated with all and sundry. Then there were her queries on caste—rather, her complete misunderstanding of it where she equated caste with cliques.

From questioning the dynamics between power and love to unravelling the enigma of monogamy in a city teeming with possibilities, Carrie kept questioning every facet of contemporary relationships. Season after season, she dissected the intricacies of intimacy in clothes that garnered as much awe as it incurred mockery.

Over the years, many tried to keep track of every query Carrie was caught wondering about. We managed to find at least one of her questions from each episode, and here is a compilation that you can go through. You can make a game night out of asking your friends these questions over shots or cosmos!

Here’s at least one question Carrie Bradshaw wondered about in every episode of Sex and the City!

Carrie’s curious queries from season one

  • Episode 1: “Were women in New York really giving up on love and throttling up on power?”
  • Episode 2: “If models could cause otherwise rational individuals to crumble in their presence, exactly how powerful was beauty?”
  • Episode 3: “Is there a secret cold war between singles and marrieds?”
  • Episode 4: “Are men in their twenties the new designer drug?”
  • Episode 5: “Where’s the line between the professional girlfriend and just plain ‘professional’?”
  • Episode 6: “How many of us out there are having great sex with people we’re ashamed to introduce to our friends?”
  • Episode 7: “In a city like New York, with its infinite possibilities, has monogamy become too much to expect?”
  • Episode 8: “Were threesomes the new sexual frontier?”
  • Episode 9: “In a city of great expectations, is it time to settle for what you can get?”
  • Episode 10: “As I watched Laney tear open a terry cloth baby bib with the same enthusiasm she once reserved for tearing off rock stars’ pants, I couldn’t help but wonder, ‘Was I next?’”
  • Episode 11: “How often is normal?”
  • Episode 12: “Are relationships the religion of the nineties?”

Carrie’s curious queries from season two

  • Episode 1: “What are the break-up rules?”
  • Episode 2: “Are there still certain things in a relationship one should never say?”
  • Episode 3: “Are all men freaks?”
  • Episode 4: “Is it better to fake it than be ‘alone’?”
  • Episode 5: “Can a relationship bring you back to life?”
  • Episode 6: “In a gravity-free world of ‘anything goes,’ what constitutes cheating?”
  • Episode 7: “In a city as cynical as New York, is it still possible to believe in love at first sight?”
  • Episode 8: “Are we willing to believe anything to date?”
  • Episode 9: “Can you change a man?”
  • Episode 10: “Was New York really any different from New Delhi? Had our class system been replaced by a caste system? And if so, can we date outside our caste?”
  • Episode 11: “Are New Yorkers evolving past relationships?”
  • Episode 12: “When it comes to relationships, how do you know when enough is enough?”
  • Episode 13: “Do you have to play games to make a relationship work?”
  • Episode 14: “We were all, in fact, just dating the same person over and over again?”
  • Episode 15: “When you date someone, how many people become emotionally involved? When you sleep with some, are you screwing the family?”
  • Episode 16: “How do you know if you’re good in bed?”
  • Episode 17: “That week, back in the city, I wondered, What was the allure of the twenties?”
  • Episode 18: “Can you be a friend with an ex?

Carrie’s curious queries from season three

  • Episode 1: “Do women just want to be rescued?”
  • Episode 2: “Can there be sex without politics?”
  • Episode 3: “Are there women in New York who are just there to make us feel bad about ourselves?”
  • Episode 4: “If we can take the best of the other sex and make it our own, has the opposite sex become obsolete?”
  • Episode 5: “When the hell did dating become so dump-friendly?”
  • Episode 6: “Are we simply romantically challenged, or are we sluts?”
  • Episode 7: “Do we need drama to make a relationship work?”
  • Episode 8: “Is timing everything?”
  • Episode 9: “When it comes to relationships, is it smarter to follow your heart or your head?”
  • Episode 10: “Can we have it all?”
  • Episode 11: “Is sex ever safe?”
  • Episode 12: “In a relationship, is honesty the best policy?”
  • Episode 13: “No matter how far you travel or how much you run from it, can you ever really escape from your past?”
  • Episode 14: “I wondered … Were we all just victims of conditioned responses?”
  • Episode 15: “In today’s youth-obsessed culture, are the women of my generation growing into mature, responsible adults, or are we 34 going on 13?”
  • Episode 16: “Are we getting wiser, or just getting older?”
  • Episode 17: “Is there such a thing as relationship karma?”
  • Episode 18: “Could it be that the problem isn’t them, but the horror of horrors, is it us?”

Carrie’s curious queries from season four

  • Episode 1: “Soul mates: Reality or torture device?”
  • Episode 2: “Why is it that we can see our friends perfectly, but when it comes to ourselves, no matter how hard we look, do we ever see ourselves clearly?”
  • Episode 3: “What really defines the relationship?”
  • Episode 4: “What comes first, the chicken (the relationship) or the sex?”
  • Episode 5: “When a relationship dies, do we ever give up the ghost, or are we forever hunted by the spirits of relationships past?”
  • Episode 6: “In matters of love, do actions really speak louder than the words?”
  • Episode 7: “Can you ever really forgive if you can’t forget?
  • Episode 8: “If giving a man the keys to your apartment means unlocking the door to home cooking and great sex, why were so many independent women…(this is where her laptop crashes.)
  • Episode 9: “When does the art of compromise become comprising?”
  • Episode 10: “Are men just women with balls?”
  • Episode 11: “As we speed this endless road to the destination called “Who-We-Hope-to-Be” I can’t help but whine, are we there yet?”
  • Episode 12: “In matters of love, how do you know when it’s right?”
  • Episode 13: “When it comes to the relationship, what are we fighting for?”
  • Episode 14: “To be a couple, do you have to put your single self on a shelf?”
  • Episode 15: “…do we really want these things (marriage and children), or are we just programmed?”
  • Episode 16: “At the end of yet another failed relationship,… you have to wonder, what’s it all worth?”
  • Episode 17: “How much does a ‘father figure’ figure?”
  • Episode 18: “Can you make a mistake and miss your fate?”

Carrie’s curious queries from season five

  • Episode 1: “Does that sense of adventure still flicker inside of us? Or when it comes to being carefree single girls, have we missed the boat?”
  • Episode 2: “What is the harm in believing?”
  • Episode 3: “If we know the house always wins, why gamble?”
  • Episode 4: “If it is instantly clear that a person, a place, or even a profession is not for you, is it better to ignore your better judgement and read between the lines, or should you judge a book by its cover?”
  • Episode 5: “Why do we let the one thing we don’t have affect how we feel about all the things we do have? Why does one minus a plus one feel like it adds up to zero?”
  • Episode 6: “When it comes to life and love, why do we believe our worst reviews?”
  • Episode 7: “Are we the new bachelors?”
  • Episode 8: “Is a relationship a relationship without the Zsa Zsa Zsu?…That butterflies-in-your-stomach thing that happens when you not only love the person, but you gotta have them.”

Carrie’s curious queries from season six

  • Episode 1: “When it comes to finance and dating, I couldn’t help but wonder: Why do we keep investing?”
  • Episode 2: “Why is it always something?”
  • Episode 3: “Can you get to a future if your past is present?”
  • Episode 4: “When does criticism that’s constructive become deconstructive? Are there times when the ladies should just shut the fuck up?”
  • Episode 5: “Are the men of today less threatened by women’s power, or are they just acting?”
  • Episode 6: “Do we need distance to get close?”
  • Episode 7: “Do we search “lessons” to lessen the pain?”
  • Episode 8: “When did it stop being fun and start being scary?”
  • Episode 9: “When do we stop being free to be you and me?”
  • Episode 10: “When it comes to matters of the heart, did we have it right in high school?”
  • Episode 11: “Just how dangerous is an open heart?”
  • Episode 12: “When will waiting for the one be done?”
  • Episode 13: “When it comes to men, even when we try to keep it light, how do we wind up in the dark?”
  • Episode 14: “Have we become romance intolerant?”
  • Episode 15: “I wondered if ‘should’ was another disease plaguing women… Why are we should-ing all over ourselves?”
  • Episode 16: “Denial: Friend… or foe?”
  • Episode 17: “Without sharing your worlds, can even the hottest relationship stop cold?”
  • Episode 18: “Is it some time to stop questioning?”

You can stream all six seasons of Sex and the City on Netflix now.